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All Systems are "Go"

By Jeff and Judy

The "other" thing

The idea of exploring and writing about 'affectionately-unchallenged' people our age resulted from a remarkable conversation I had not long ago with Ellen, Jeff's 84-year-old widowed mother.

Preparing lunch together, happily swapping stories about her five great-grand-children, she stopped suddenly and gripped my arm.

With her wise eyes piercing straight through me she asked, "You know what I miss most since Jeff's dad died?"

Thoughts like 'companionship', 'togetherness' and 'friendship' came to mind but she continued before I could say anything.

"Being held, hugged and kissed, really kissed, with mouths open," she said, a saucy smile forming on her thin lips. I nodded understandingly, not sure I wanted her to continue and totally unprepared for what came next.

"But most of all, you know, the 'other' thing!"

My shock was complete.

"Don't be embarrassed," she continued. "There isn't a day when I don't see him giving me that 'look'. Like a little boy begging for candy. He knew exactly when I saw it I'd lead him straight to the bedroom."

I too, know that look. Jeff gives me the same one, unashamedly handed down from one Sellers male to the next, probably since Roman times.

When I told him about Ellen's secret desires he said as a youngster he'd tried hard not to imagine his parents making love but now, hearing they'd been doing it well into their seventies he swelled with pride.

"Let's make sure we can make the same claim when we get there," he said. (Jeff is almost 65 and I'm 61.)

Frankly, before Jeff retired in 1998 our sessions were becoming a ritual. And truthfully, unlike earlier days when we'd be intimate at any opportunity, rarely more often than once a week. If that.

Later Jeff told me he'd wanted to be more active but felt I didn't. So not wanting to be rejected he left the mating signals up to me.

He was more than surprised when I told him how often I'd wanted him, anytime, spontaneously, in the back of the car in the garage if need be.

On mornings before he left for work or as soon as he came home through the front door. Or, on many, many days how I'd considered calling to beg him to leave his office and return for some good old-fashioned cooking.

Happily, post-retirement, things have changed and decidedly for the better.

And if you allow us we'll be spilling the beans weekly about just how.

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Just who are Jeff and Judy? Judy and Jeff Sellers are a US couple who love sunsets, world travel, fine wines, good food and each other. As often as possible and not necessarily in that order. They currently seek a congenial publisher for their "Frisky after Sixty" book ('A Good in Bed Read') and after many requests from friends all over the world waiting impatiently for their local newspapers to carry this column. To find out more go to Frisky After Sixty.




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